Love in the light of reality is different than love as it is explained in society. In the world of reality, love in a romantic relationship is far less common than it is popularly perceived. A wedding takes place. All who attend do so on the basis that the couple has fallen in love and are joining together in life on that basis. Such is not often the case, although it does happen.

Young folks, of course, are compelled by nature to pair up in marriage and other types of relationships. Both girls and boys feel incomplete when they are unable to do so. Neither, in the beginning, are looking for an individual to devote their life to. Instead, each one is looking for a resource that will serve their personal interests.

By tradition, society treats it as normal that couples date, get to know one another, fall in love and engage in sex after falling in love. It is deemed normal, proper and moral that it happens that way. In reality, at least half of sexual encounters occur on the first date. Of these, about half of the time, sex occurs at the female’s suggestion. Sometimes, a marriage follows. Most often each encounter ends up being a temporary solution to the issue of satisfying the overwhelming compulsion to mate, that both the male and female possess. Somewhere in this process, some couples fall in love and experience a lifelong positive relationship.

There is no such thing as a relationship that is built on love alone. This is especially true of women. It turns out that love is only part of the equation. Both of the people also view their partner as a resource. Often , a relationship exists just because each is a compatible resource with the other. One ….or both of the partners may serve as a guaranteed source of sex for the other. A means of financial stability may be the deal. True love is illusive, even though love is assumed to be present.

There is a balance between these things and that is what binds couples together. When one party does not live up to the other’s expectations…. or fails to live up to the other’s desires in terms of being a resource, the marriage or relationship ends.

When I taught economics I would explain that of all the trials they would face in life, what would be their most difficult task would be,that of entering and maintaining a workable love relationship. This would also go further than anything else in determining their lifetime economic viability – more so than an education, job, or career.

If towards the end of life, a person makes a list of the greatest difficulties they ever faced – none would have occurred had they not have had sex with someone.

That is the reality of love relationships.