Getting Started

Getting Started.  PDF Version

The fantasy free advantage starts with the understanding that uncertainty is normal. Some uncertainty can be eliminated – but not much. Out of uncertainty, its close cousin insecurity is derived. Uncertainty and insecurity combine and fear is the result.  Fear is assuaged by adopting euphemisms and  indulging in fantasy. Cold reality is too overwhelming  so it becomes  replaced with fantasies.

No one knows what life is. No one knows what happens when we die. We are all conscious. No one knows what consciousness is. Is consciousness generated by life or is it independent of life?

Then , there is the will to live. The will to live is more confounding than life itself. Whatever is alive seeks to stay alive. Even a blade of grass with no brain has the will to live. Who knows the source of the will to live? Does life have a purpose? Any purpose is not apparent. All animals, including humans must consume animals and other living things in order to survive. Focusing on these attributes of existence is daunting. The mind doesn’t want to go there – so it doesn’t.

In the Old Testament, the author of the Book of Ecclesiastes focuses on these issues and draws no concrete conclusions. The meanings of a number of Old Testament books focus on how to live life in the face of life’s daunting unanswered questions and mysteries.

The race to escape reality begins at birth. Every child is unknowingly born into an eternal power struggle.  Reality is replaced with fantasy because it is too harsh to cope with.  Our world is governed by laws of dominance and subservience. Most people live in an oasis of peace separated from all of the belligerence and brutality …. that is actually an ongoing process. The attempted escape does begin at birth. This continues throughout life. Reality always wins in the end.

Basic Unanswered Questions

 During a lifetime, reality catches up with everyone a number of times. That does not mean a person becomes enlightened and discovers what reality is. Having to deal with reality is not the same as grasping and internalizing the concept. As soon as a crisis passes and usually while the crisis is ongoing, life becomes centered around new fantasies. Sometimes old fantasies are refurbished, adjusted, and re-applied to one’s life.

Regardless…. reality is what it is.  to all consumed in fantasy, their fantasies  are their reality. Attack these fantasies of life and their beholders defend them vehemently. The lies of life replace nature’s reality with fantasies. The truth is then seen as threatening. I guess that it is. The truth about reality is what it is – no matter what. In other words, the way things are is the way things are.

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The Search For Reality

I have just explained why folks escape reality. You might wonder who might search for that – if it is all so daunting?  Often it is those who for one reason or another, are suffering in the fantasy world. Some do and I am providing them with the opportunity to get there.

Certainly, one good reason is to do so out of self defense. When there is no way out of a bad situation, getting in touch with reality can provide a path out and into a better life.
Sunlight is a great thing. That is until you stare directly into the sun on a day in July. We face a similar dilemma in seeing life as it genuinely is,  To a mind that is not ready for it, what the realities of existence are, are too daunting for the mind to constantly entertain. What you find when you remove fantasy, is in fact, reality.

Once fantasy is removed, an entire inborn false belief system becomes apparent. Much of human behavior exposes itself as instinct. Continue reading

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Coming To Grips With False Beliefs

Instinctive Propensities

Who has not had the experience of concentrating very hard for an hour or more? It creates fatigue. At one time, I taught Algebra II and pre-calculus at a rural high school. These student’s minds would give out after a half – hour of thinking hard. The same students would go home in the afternoon to the ranch or farm where they lived. They would do hard manual labor for perhaps three or more hours before calling it a day. The school was so small that over half of the boys played on the foot ball team. They had an endless amount of  energy. They never complained about hard physical work at all. They complained endlessly about the rigors of doing brain work.

Clearly the brain has a way of conserving energy. Most of brain activity is automatic.Much of what the brain has you do is automatic. More decisions are made automatically  than otherwise.  A lot of behaviors are inborn and instinctive.  Here are some important examples.

Humans are instinctively driven to exalt themselves. They also exalt groups they are born into and participate in voluntarily. Loyalties are inborn as wall as acquired. Take race for example. White and black people have a degree of loyalty to their race. That seems normal, but does it make any sense? Actually, it doesn’t in the realm  of reality. Neither gets a check in the mail from their race. If either has been hurt, it has most likely been at the hands of someone of their own race. There is your country and mine, your state, city and neighborhood as well.

Arbitrary loyalties are cultivated and nurtured. In high school, a kid is deemed as much as a pariah if they don’t root for their home team.  Woe to the student that lacks school spirit. Only a reprobate would not support the home team. School is a team effort. Pride in your school is the word.

There are loyal Republicans and loyal Democrats, life long. Their party can go off and leave them but they are still loyal, good or bad to the end. It can boil down to “It is, sure my party has not lived up to my expectations. They will someday…. for sure.” The right words keep the faithful from wandering off or God forbid…. switching parties.

A political party is a public institution. A person can join a party, quit and join the other. That almost never happens.

Where motivations are biologically driven, loyalties are far less common. There is lots of loyalty in marriage but in half of them there is not. Infidelity is extremely common. Sometimes there is loyalty to an employer. That is – provided all is going well for the one who is loyal. Circumstances change…. and all loyalties go out the window. Behavior in the work place is rooted in the survival instinct. 

What we find is a loyalty hierarchy, If it gets in the way of survival and reproduction, that loyalty easily goes out the window, when perceived better opportunities come along. There is still loyalty but it can be and often is circumstantial.

A person who is fantasy free, thinks these things through and reasons out when to be loyal and when not to be.

Propensity To Worship

Masses of folk place faith in God, based on a religion. Do they look to God for guidance? Some do in a general sense. When it comes down to difficult issues in life, they place their faith in someone or an institution.  That is normally their government or an expert of some kind. Are governments or an expert helpful? Sometimes an expert is. But, who has been helped by the government lately? 

Are experts worth what they charge? Sometimes they are but often they are not.

It isn’t all about experts, Look at t – shirts for sale at Walmart. See if you can find one without an icon representing an adorned name or icon on one. People want to display their affection – with respect to those they look up to..This is a form of worship.  People are much more prone to worship each other than they are a supreme being. 

Human Herding Instinct






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